Thoughts on BDSM

I don’t know…

Feb 18, 2014 | Posted by in Thoughts on BDSM | 2

I don’t know if he knows it when he does it. It’s hard to tell. Does he see how his influence, how his authority, settles me, calms me, focuses me? Brings my chaos under rein, brings my crazy to heel; tames me? Flying, whirling, a chaotic angsty mess I am this evening… And all unplannedRead more …

Kink of the Week – Pony Play

Feb 6, 2014 | Posted by in Thoughts on BDSM | 8
mtkfpony

If you’ve been around the blog for long, you know that I am very into Pony Play. Doing a quick search on the tag “pony” on my blog I found eight posts, but I know there are several more that I just haven’t tagged. I don’t know if I’ve ever written much about why IRead more …

A Bushy Tale

Feb 1, 2014 | Posted by in Thoughts on BDSM | 2

Well, and a bushy tail. But I’m not going there, at least as a pictorial. Earlier today I published my first February Photofest post, with a collage that featured, in a somewhat subtle, and (if I do say so myself) artistic way, a hint of the Bushy Bush, as Lil Sister (my euphemistic name forRead more …

#KOTW: CFNM, A Male Perspective

Jan 26, 2014 | Posted by in Thoughts on BDSM | 1
davidwraith

I was thrilled when David Wraith, a nationally known writer, filmmaker, activist and one of the founders of Sex Positive St. Louis, agreed to write a post on this week’s topic, Clothed Female Naked Male (CFNM.) There are so many great perspectives about it on the KOTW blog, but I had yet to see oneRead more …

#WickedWednesday – Pleasure and Pain

Nov 6, 2013 | Posted by in BDSM, Thoughts on BDSM, Wicked Wednesday | 6

Pain and pleasure. Pleasure and pain. Pain: Pleasure. Pleasure: Pain. Painpleasure. Pleasurepain. It all gets mixed up together, doesn’t it? I am no neophyte to the concept, certainly. I recently wrote about it, in fact, in Whipped & Fucked. And have written about it all throughout this chronicle of my relationship with W, and ofRead more …

Punishment Dynamics

Nov 5, 2013 | Posted by in BDSM, Thoughts on BDSM | 3

Last week’s Kink of the Week post on BDSM relationships that include punishment as a component really got me thinking. I didn’t think I’d have much to say about it, since I don’t have a relationship that has a punishment dynamic, but the more I read others’ posts on the topic, the more I struggledRead more …

Sapiosexuality – My Take

Aug 30, 2013 | Posted by in Thoughts on BDSM | 0

I’ll be honest, I’m not sure I’d qualify sapiosexuality as an actual kink. At least not as most people seem to describe it: “I like intelligent people.” I mean, doesn’t everyone? Well, maybe not everyone. But, by and large it seems that most folks like a little bit upstairs in their choice of sexual partners.Read more …

#KOTW – Sapiosexuality, from a Reader

Aug 29, 2013 | Posted by in Thoughts on BDSM | 2
Kink of the Week

Occasionally I get emails from people that don’t have a blog but are so enthused by a Kink of the Week topic that they want to write about it. I am always happy to post your words, anonymous or not, here in my blog! :-) This is from “CanoeWife” on Fetlife: “For years people askedRead more …