Tag Archives: the ex

How We Got Kinky – Part 3

Jan 13, 2013 | Posted by in Before | 2

You never know what it’s going to be that will trip that “trigger.” Even in “vanilla” sex, there are certain motions, activities or thoughts that turn a person on, get them going, get them off. It might the way he pulls your nipples, or a certain image that pops into your head right at theRead more …

Truth–Day 22: Regrets

Mar 2, 2011 | Posted by in 30 days of truth | 1

Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. ~ Sydney Smith Day 22 → Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life. I don’t have many regrets. I feel that everything we do, everything that happens, serves itsRead more …

Shoe Slut

Jun 24, 2010 | Posted by in Before | 18

Aurore recently asked, “Are you ever not in heels?”  I know she was teasing, but that got me to thinking about W’s and my heel obsession, and how it all evolved. The truthful answer to Aurore’s question is, when I’m with W, or taking pictures for him, or dressing in case I might see him:Read more …

How We Got Kinky – Part 2

May 14, 2010 | Posted by in Before | 0

How does a Top with no experience become a Top? What resources were there for someone that wants to learn to Dominate another human being? I didn’t have a clue. More than that, I didn’t have a clue if he’d even want to. But I had a challenge of my own: how to tell my husband that his wife liked kinky sex.

Your Daily Whine

Nov 30, 2009 | Posted by in Before | 0

I’m feeling the need to organize something.  Anything. This is usually a result of unresolved anxieties or a jumbled emotional space, neither of which I believe I am experiencing. I’m experiencing something though. At the moment I am experiencing the desire to crawl into bed and sleep for a week. Or the rest of theRead more …


Oct 5, 2009 | Posted by in Before | 0

Every once in awhile my ex is a real fucking putz. Today is one such time. He called me back after I left him VM about the BoyChild being home sick today. At the end of the update about when I would be dropping off the child at his house, he said “I have somethingRead more …


May 25, 2009 | Posted by in BDSM, scenes | 4

(image used under a Creative Commons license) I love blindfolds.  In a seeming dichotomy, they let me slip into a place removed from the scene that’s going on, and yet be engaged in it on an even more intimate level by touch, scent & sound. Usually, I have no fear of “what’s going to happen”Read more …